((((((( CJR ))))))))

I think it's important to look back in life and see the pattern that has been created here with your daughter. It sounds like to me, that every time she creates a difficulty (or what she perceives as one) someone has run to rescue her. So why in the world should she start to change that now????

Breaking old habits is very very hard but definitely something one can do. Maybe if you were to sit down and write out all the times that you and your husband ran to fix her problems and showed it to your husband in black and white, he might see the pattern that he has helped to create.

Your daughter is fighting for what she has always fought for and received......bad behavior gets good results for her. Why should she change it???

If this kind of cycle is one that you want to break with her, maybe speaking to a behavior specialist would be helpful for you and your husband. Learning ways of changing your behaviors will bleed over to her and she will have to change her behaviors to coincide with yours.

I wish you much luck and strength through this. I know it won't be easy.


sabby