Yes.

He is very abusive a lot and is very controlling, manipulative, self centered, and cold unless he is working at me for something. I don't trust him. It seems to be true that he thinks what is his is his and what is mine he thinks should be his - but he doesn't see it like that; somehow to him everything is my fault.

Unfortunately I can't see my way clear to leave him. So I am trying to do the best I can and to see how I can minimize damage to me. I find all that a challenge. I have learned a lot over the years, but obviously not enough. I have read a lot of books on abuse.