I'm not sure I have good advice, but I'll toss I'm my two cents. First of all you are not wrong for doing what you need to for your kids. As parents our children come first. Second if you love her, she loves you and you both are working on your issues and the relationship, that's what counts. You obviously love her and are doing your best. Who could ask for more? Maybe some counselling together would be good. Otherwise I don't think you're doing anything wrong.

Good luck. Oh and its nice to see another Calgarian on the boards.