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Originally Posted by Little Moons
Saying "I don't want to bother with you anymore," was really unkind. While she has a right to choose who she wants to be friends with, she can be more respectful about how she ends a friendship. There's nothing wrong with being thankful for something in your life. If I had a friend like you're describing, I'd feel judged by her and constantly worry that something I say will set her off, which would be very stressful for me. I'd be inclined not to be friends with her, but I understand if you decide it's worth it to you to try to stay friends.
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Thanks. Her behavior is really erratic. I should have clarified that even though said she doesn't want to be bothered with me, she went back on her word, calls me, tries to vent and says it's not just me, it's just she has "a lot of problems." In other words, she doesn't want to end the friendship, she will just say hurtful things then make up excuses that she's just going through a lot and still wants me to be there for her.
I just don't know how to proceed, as far as continuing this friendship. I am torn between just accepting her for who she is and giving her space, or if this should be a signal to me that maybe I am opening myself to future bad treatment since it happened twice? I don't find her behavior to be acceptable, although I have some empathy for her......but I'm hurt. Her apologies seem to be "I am sorry, BUT", instead of a genuine apology. I don't expect gifts or flowers....just some sincerity.
She can be very loving and caring. It's just that now I feel I am walking on eggshells.