This has been my experience but the neediness and dependence only lessened when I agreed to restrict texts and emails with my T... And constantly asking him for the reassurance. I got to the point where I think I was creating crises and issues just to reach out to him and say I need him to tell me it's ok. You often say you're not quite there yet. In my case it just reinforced the neediness and dependence. If T and I had kept on texting like we were I would have never felt the little more independence I do from him.