Hey Crypts... I'm going to try again to offer some help because I feel bad for what you're going through...

You know, to me it feels like you are trying to live up to what, in your mind, is impossible standards from other people. You seem to think they are angry at you for every little thing you do, nothing is good enough for them. They say they want one thing then you give it to them and they don't seem to want it. You're feeling helpless, what can I do? Why does it never seem to be good enough for others? What cruel trick is the universe playing on me? Why won't some UNDERSTAND ME?

The problem is, you are projecting your own high standards for yourself onto other people's criticisms. Literally nobody holds you to as high of a standard as you hold yourself to. You are reading too much into others' complaints because you are not accurately gauging either the severity or the legitimacy of those complaints. You are just honing in on the fact that other people seem to be angry at you and somehow trying to figure out what you would need to do to make them stop treating you that way. I'm guessing your husband is a very critical and probably a very fundamentally angry person because you seem to be biased towards thinking that everyone is angry at you. We expect from the world what we are used to at home. The thing is, your husband isn't angry at YOU, he's just angry in general and he's taking his anger out on you. There's nothing you could do to satisfy his complaints because his complaints aren't ABOUT you. They're most likely about his fundamental, nonspecific anger at women and by trying to "fix" or "placate" his anger, tirelessly trying to be what he claims to want you to be, you end up personalizing something which is not personal and feeling like it's somehow actually something you did that made him angry or there's theoretically something you could do to make him stop being angry. His game is rigged, so if you keep trying to win, you are just messing with your own emotions. This is what would make you feel like nothing you do is ever good enough for others. If you ever want to be happy you would ideally need to stop trying to go out of your way to try and satisfy other people. You are already good enough just by existing. You don't need to prove to anyone that you are good enough.