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Originally Posted by Patagonia
I asked about how your daughter reacts bec some teens will rebel over rules. There’s some rules that are just not meant to be broken & some that have wiggle room.
Going to bed by 10pm can be backed up with scientific evidence that kids need to sleep. It’s just a fact & also the glow of a screen can actually wake a person up instead of bring sleep.
Makeup can be an issue depending on peers. I learned about makeup by applying it on the back of the school bus. Not ideal. Maybe you could take your daughter to a place for a free makeover that would teach her how to properly take care of her skin & teach her how to apply makeup properly for her age, like a bare fresh look that would include a lipgloss that had an spf in it. This gives her a choice, different techniques & an open understanding of what you think is acceptable. Not a harsh rule of “don’t wear it.” It May give her a subconscious feeling that makeup is ugly, is used only by loose women etc. Makeup & her use of it can be empowering.
If she’s not allowed to watch inappropriate shows or adult content where is the line drawn & does she know where the line is drawn. Is it based language, nudity, content? Does she know this & does she understand this. Is this based on your comfort level or hers? If this is based on sexual content does she know why & outrightly understand that decision or is it a blanket “no.” Im just asking. Like can she have sleepovers with other girls?
I understand your rules & yes I have my own for my Dd but do they understand the reasoning behind the rules out in the open. And from my own experience, everything that was a blanket “no” in my house growing up, with no explanation was explored as soon as I left the house.
So if you’re telling her no...& here’s why....then that explains your rules & why you have them. I’m not trying to saying you’re doing this wrong, no way! but that they see why we as parents are making these rules. I hope this makes sense that I am agreeing with you.
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I always try to explain the reasoning behind my rules to my daughter, whether she listens or not is an entirely different question.