I know the theology of the prayer & I also know that it doesnt apply to abuse situations. I have been there, done that & it got to the point where trying to stay I found myself wanting to kill myself rather than stay trapped because I stayed way too long.

That is why I say it is a very personal decision to stay & it is a very personal decision for what works for you & your situation in ordwr to stay. There are NO general "coping strategies" suitable for dealing with abuse. You have to figure out how you can best deal with it personally & in regard to yoyr situation. Most people get out & those who dont resign themselves to their fate & deal with & accept it best they can given their own specific personality & situation they are in.