Yes I agree. Maybe due to the way he was raised or his societal values, he feels that when you vent it’s aimed at him & his knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Not listen per say, but he’s thinking about himself & how he can fix it to make things better. I feel it’s the male role to do this.
Usually women “vent”, chat & share with other women, girlfriends or female family members. If you don’t have that (I don’t) I vent to him which is interpreted wrong.
I feel women listen, offer empathy & understand WHY we’re venting.

From research of my own & further readings it looks like this role switch started around the time of the break to the nuclear family.
When large extended families lived together women had others to go to in friendship & other women’s perspectives. We had a release valve.
Then the nuclear family started, families moved further apart & women were left with just their partners to fill the role of friend, confidant, etc & it fell into the males lap. His role became compounded.
There’s some podcasts about this idea. Can’t think of them at this minute, but when I started to listen to our history as women, well it made sense. Then add on today’s society pressure & it’s just a pressure cooker.

I’m not sure any of this helps you or not, but I do really understand how difficult basic communication can be. (((Hugs)))