I have talked to my therapist about this, but it hasn't been very helpful. She has suggested 5 wishes (I think that's what it's called) but when it comes to fears of dementia, which I dealt with in a parent's situation, she just says that must be scary. Um...eff yeah, it is.

I know a couple of people with access to the right kind of medical assistance to end things, but the problem is that for something like dementia—which is hands down the most horrible condition and insurance does not cover the cost of care for it—I have noticed that by the time it's apparent, the person is unaware or in denial. The timing is hard to get right. Anyway, these two other people and I have a pact to assist each other. I am the youngest, though, so I don't think they will be there for me if it comes to it. I wish therapy could be more helpful with this, but when it comes down to it, life really sucks and it is getting worse in this country for anyone who is not wealthy.