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Old Dec 10, 2017, 04:12 PM
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Originally Posted by ArchieAus View Post
Sometimes by trying to justify we can actually give fuel to the fire . You've resolved this and the important person in the conversation ( the one paying the money , the client ) has supported your mindset on it . Once you clearly state your standpoint on a suggestion in your area of expertise " no , I do not feel it would be of benefit , due to A , B and C " then its end of discussion . If the other person being retained wants to go on with it and push the point. Don't respond . Yes , send another group email after an acceptable time period , but change the direction of the conversation to what you feel is the next important step to complete the given task. Try not to have that period of self doubt . You got there shortly after where you felt vindicated that the client agreed with your viewpoint . You are in control . These are my skills , I stand by them . I will complete the task . If you drive into my lane I will calmly indicate around you and continue my course .
I am just such a people pleaser and approval seeker, due to my abusive past, that it's hard for me to sit calmly while someone is potentially angry with me. But everything that you've said is right.

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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.

Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien

Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
Thanks for this!
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