thanks for all the replies its only recantly that the day center are starting to do the things that you sugest sabby but i have been doing these things most of her life shes 23 at the moment, i dont think she will ever change

just before all this kicked of i have refused to do things for her
one was to take her to youth club any more because of the way she played up when it was time to leave i threatend several times then i did it i said no more

and the night before we heard from social services she was at home with her sister while we were at friends now being its a wed and the day she recieved her money she expected me to take her shopping that night sometimes i would sometimes i wouldnt this paticular night i wasnt that good i had just driven home in that horrible rain were you got your wipers going and you still cant see much , and there was noway i was going out in it again to buy sweets and maybe a outfit
so i refused, next morning nothing was out of the ordanary untill we had the call about 5.30 she was not comming home because of a aligation

so she did the worst i did not play ball she would get her attention other ways

again thank you

this has again knocked me for six