((((((((((((((((( ev ))))))))))))))))))))

Once t told me that it really didn't matter if every word I told him was fact, did it...that it's what I believed that mattered. I, with shock, said that of course it mattered! He broke it down for me...memories are different and might not be factual. The president and the pope could both view an accident and have very different accounts and neither might be completely factual due to several things.

He said if I believed something to be true then that's what affected me and that's what we were to deal with. He did follow it with saying that he certainly believed that I was honest with him about what I believed and knew.

It sounded tricky to me then and still does, ya know? I felt like a play with words and a mind game of some sort...just tell me you believe me...YES, I need that. Not everything needed to be analyzed and were very basic I think.

I NEEDED to know SIMPLY that he believed me because things felt very unreal to me. I NEEDED that touchstone. We later talked about that and he could see where I was coming from and said simply, "Yes, I believe you."

I do know where you're coming from, hon, and I do understand that very basic need that really should have a simple answer. I look back now and know beyond a shadow of a doubt that he believed me, probably more and on more levels than anyone ever has. I hope that for you.

I hope you can ask her for what you need and I hope she can give it...simply and honestly.

The next time you broach the subject, maybe try not to mix it up with another issue? I'm just guessing as to what might help, hon, because I really struggled with this myself. Maybe she just focused on making sure to relay to you that she understood in the email?

KD