I understand what you're asking. As a defiant person, I hate conformity. It's an insult to who I am and what I want for myself as far as a comfortable life style and acceptable future. I know that none of this will ever *truly* come to pass because life isn't a bed of roses for anyone even if it seems like it is sometimes for some people. I know that I will always struggle with certain things and that really sucks too but, it doesn't have to defeat me unless I let it.
As pointed out by others, therapy is to coax us out of our shells and share our fears, insecurities and doubts so that we can better be understood and to help us to heal as well as to teach us how to function on or near the same level as most others who aren't hindered by the same kind of problems as us so, that we can integrate into society to become a part of it for ourselves and to help sustain it that it may grow into something more than what it already is. It's to help us to prosper in society and to become a working part of it as well. Therapy is about helping to repair a damaged part (the damaged person) of society so that they can return to society as a functioning part. It's not so much about fitting into society as it is about becoming something that will benefit society and help it to prosper but, first and foremost it is about helping the wounded or damaged individual to heal so, that they can have peace and comfort and confidence so that they too can get some happiness out of life and want to stay a part of it and not give up. It really is about compassion for those of us who have been hurt really bad or born with something bad that we haven't been taught how to deal with.
Does this help any? I hope that your depression lifts soon. A little vitamin D will help that or some fish may help to sooth it away. I hope you get to feeling better.