Hi Marsfx...

I feel like I missed something. What happened that made it feel like your therapist is giving up on you? It sounds like she said or did something, and your response is to go ahead and leave, to avoid being hurt by her abandoning you? (Am I anywhere in the ballpark?)

I'm sorry... and you're right. Therapy IS a weird relationship. I don't have it figured out either. I'm trying... but haven't had much success. My latest therapist has been saying that she doesn't feel like she's helping and doesn't feel good about our sessions, so it feels to me like things might be coming to a very early ending too (I only started seeing her this summer) - but we've talked a bit about how we might work together, given that I suck at therapy and hate the self-disclosure stuff too.

We've decided to try to approach it slightly differently. I'm picking out therapy books that I've wanted to read/work through, and we're going to read them together and discuss each week. I think it will help take the focus off me, a little... but still give me room to talk about what comes up. This is the first week, so we'll see how it goes... I hope it makes it easier to talk!

Would something like, a different approach, be helpful for you, do you think?

There are also different types of therapy. Some people here have had more luck with somatic therapy, I think, which focuses more on the body. I don't know much about it, but it might be worth looking up. Maybe a different type of therapy would click better with you?

Did you feel like you clicked with this therapist? I find that really hard... because the type of people who become therapists don't seem to be people that I naturally click with... or maybe, I just find all their therapist-y questions really annoying. I was thinking about it last night, that I find the questions they ask *aversive* rather than connecting. I don't have an answer for how to fix that though.

Good luck.