Need more options, for those of us who have had multiple Ts!

For me...

- I have hugged ONE T, and that was at termination (after seeing her for about 3 years). I had never wanted to hug her, it wasn't something that I thought about, but I didn't mind it as a goodbye gesture.

- I have, oddly, never wanted to hug any of the others. In fact, I sort of recoil at the thought. I think it's a bit too much closeness for me. Like, with old T, I felt like just pulling up his webpage and have his picture in my house was "too much" and a bit overwhelming. (But I apparently have the weird, difficult attachment style... "fearful-avoidant" I think?)