Digging up this old thread: Ok ... well that's done. It took me two months to get something together. I kept starting and rewriting the whole thing because I didn't know what to include, then new thing kept coming up that I thought she'd like to know. Well — I let all that go and just wrote something. In the meantime I've had a couple of brief exchanges with her via messenger about banal stuff, so I did warn her it might be long — because that's how I am. She said that's fine and "Make it as long as you like,"

I'm watching how I respond to things by overthinking them sooo much and catastrophizing gets worse when I'm "out of touch" with someone I care about. But just the tiniest little exchange with her brings me back to earth again. Like - okay - I'm fine. I'm okay. I'm not crazy.
I was honest with her in the letter about all of that. How much I miss her. I was honest with the sad things in my life as well as the good things. To my surprise she wrote back a brief but definitive acknowledgement of my email that same evening telling she would write more to specifics later but she just wanted me to know she enjoyed my letter.

That's much more if a response than I expected. I feel so lucky to have met this person.