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Originally Posted by Crypts_Of_The_Mind
Yes I know what its supposed to do - the question is, is that what it really does?
Kind of like when people tell someone "hey why don't you come out to the party with us tonight? It will be fun. You will have a blast. You need a change of pace anyway, right?" So the person thinks it over n thinks - well, his/her friends will be there, most likely some music, maybe some food, people laughing n talking - why not? So says "sure, why not?" Get there - turns out the others only wanted him/her there to be the "safe driver" bc they planned on getting drunk and knew he/she didn't drink - so the others wander off leaving him/her alone. So - what was "supposed to be" a fun evening out with friends for a change of pace just became an evening of feeling like a third wheel being drug around N brought out only when useful.
Sometimes what is touted is not what is. So the question is ...is therapy really what its supposed to be or is it just a method to get us to conform
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Ok, if you were to share the example experience that you wrote out here in this post a therapist would listen and validate that what you experienced was not nice, these friends were just being selfish and there actions showed you they are not really very good friends and that you now know not to fall into this trap again. So learning from this experience the next time you are asked out like this make it a point to say you want to make sure you are not going to be depended on to drive others and be put in a situation where they only plan on getting drunk and could possibly ignore you.
Unfortunately, we come across people during our lives that behave badly, don't respect others and use. We cannot change other people who behave badly, but we can change how we handle situations so we set healthier boundaries for ourselves.
This is not some method to get YOU to conform, but to learn from experiences so you can be better prepared so you don't experience this again.