My example was meant to show how one can be deceived if they listen to what they are told a situation is for. If I go to a therapist and ask "is therapy meant to help me conform?" they would naturally be more apt to deny that (even if it were true) than to say it were true - same as if I were to go to that make believe friend and say "You just wanted me there so you could get home, didn't you?" they would be more apt to say something along the lines of "no, I thought you would have fun. You need to get out more." than they would be to admit it. The way to find the truth is to talk to someone who is a knowledgeable 3rd party and face the one you are "accusing" with "a list" of facts. Then they have enough explaining to do that either they will just go away or will find a way to defend themselves - defenses are easy to tell as truth or fiction usually.

That's what I was getting at.