I live with my boyfriend right now, we've been together for like 5 years, living together for almost 2. We both have histories of depression, but mine is worse than his. I have dysphoric disorder with occasional major depressive episodes, plus PMDD. My boyfriend gets the occasional depressive episode, but it's not been very serious since we started dating.

Right now I'm going through a pretty rough period, trying to get everything under control. I know it upsets him to not be able to do anything about it, but this morning has me really worried. I woke up very depressed, couldn't even voice what was wrong when he asked. I was able to text him after he left for work. What I got back was a series of texts about how he's depressed too and hates his job and everyone there, and how he's only happy when he's with me.

My problem is that I don't think I can deal with it. I'm already so depressed myself, and I don't know how to help him. I want to believe that it's just because we've been under so much stress lately, but I don't know what I can do to help him when I can barely take care of myself. Any suggestions?