ght way to resolve my traumatic issues.

I guess the t's goal is to re-create that old trauma, but to (hopefully) do it within a safe and structured therapy relationship that, along with imparted coping skills, will lead to a mastering of the situation, rather than a re-creation of abuse and its ugly result. Problem is, it doesn't always work. Therapy can't always provide enough "relationship" or "coping skills" for the patient to move through the trauma to the other side. When that can't happen, it just ingrains the trauma again and again.

Where the subject of "attachment" plays into all this is that the t encourages attachment and gives the impression that they can be depended on at those crisis moments to provide the client with what they need (coping skills, a calm presence, whatever) so that when the "experience" of the trauma happens within the session, this time, there is enough resources for the client to get through the horrible experience without the same desperation and intolerable fear they felt before.

Now comes the BIG IF:

If the therapist does provide what is needed at the time to enable the client to experience and move through the triggered reaction and come out the other side feeling mastery over it, the chances of success are much higher.

BUT if the t has given false hope that they will jump in when the client is obviously unable to manage the traumatic reactions, and then they don't provide enough help to enable the client to master the experience, then both the attachment and the therapist's actions at the time of crisis, have done nothing but repeat the same trauma they are trying to resolve. In that case, it would have been better for the t not to foster attachment or give the client the impression that they have the skills and willingness to resolve the traumas the client brought to therapy.

Where I see that the SUI thinking and SH (or, in my case, feelings of self-hatred) come into the picture is after the therapy has triggered the traumatic experience and the t has failed to manage the process, leaving the client retraumatized. At first, the client may feel intense anger and a sense of being wronged. But within short order, the anger is turned inward and the client begins to feel thoughts such as "I'm a failure and a piece of crap. I don't deserve rescue. I don't deserve to be angry at my t. What I deserve is punishment. I don't deserve to live."