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Old Dec 13, 2017, 02:23 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. I agree unemployment is a rather "safe" subject to talk about, perhaps not too emotional but more on a practical level. Itīs not about me not wanting to talk about unemployment, itīs about what response I get to bringing such a subject up.

As I feel thereīs no real point in telling her as my problems continue being my problems and she doesnīt engage that much in what I tell her I feel itīs better just answering "it is how it is". At least I donīt risk anything and end up disappointed when she canīt engage in what I tell her in a way I expect her to do.

I think it has do to with that she also wants to dig deeper into problems, which I want as well, but she misses to engage in those practical problems on a more emotional level.

As I no longer see therapy as I way to a lot of change in life I see her more because just having someone to meet with and to talk to for an hour.

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Originally Posted by kecanoe View Post
It would depend on how I said it. I sometimes use phrases that T1 uses a lot with kind of a sly look and he knows that I am sort of poking fun at him. He laughs. If I said it seriously, he would ask if I felt angry.

If you are unsatisfied with talking about your unemployment, and thing that your T has nothing to offer there, what do you want to talk about? For me, talking about unemployment might be a way that I gauge T's response to see if they are trustworthy and safe before I got to topics that feel more scary to talk about. It has sometimes helped me to try to figure out what it is that I haven't felt safe enough to share.
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