Thread: Hugging your T
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Old Dec 13, 2017, 06:06 PM
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Originally Posted by QuietMind View Post
T and I are of the same sex. I A-frame hug T at the end of each session. It started many sessions ago, when I asked if I could hug her. We discussed and she's willing. I also asked her if she's really OK with it as I didn't want her to hug me out of obligation.

In the beginning, I would ask if I could hug her and also ask if she's OK with it every single time before hugging her.

Now she stands up and sometimes opens an arm so I can hug her.
I suppose me being willing to "A-frame" hug my T might evidence my guarded sexuality and/or the guarded state of my general personage. My inner child might intend for such a security ritual to go on forever, my parent might believe that it won't take long for me to grow out of this stage of my development, while my Adult might recognize my apparent insecurity and begin to work on it. I try to follow a specific therapy protocol as guided by a T specific applied technique. Otherwise I'm in the dark. Trust. Here, Eric Berne came to mind.