Thread: Hugging your T
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Old Dec 13, 2017, 07:08 PM
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I have thought about this about hugs and even if I sometimes feel/have felt I could hug my T Iīve ended up at thinking I donīt want to. My reason for that is if Iīd hug my T at one occasion and then some sessions later I perhaps realise I donīt want to continue therapy or I feel Iīm disappointed in something the T did or said I would feel very awkward about having hugged her.

I think hugs should be allowed if the client feels a need for a hug as an ending to a session or similar but in my own case I feel it could damage the dynamics between me and the therapist.

I donīt like to be friendly with her during our walks to and from her office because of the similar reason that if Iīm disappointed in her or I just donīt like her at the moment I feel itīs awkward having to chit-chat as we were colleagues, friends or similar.
Of course. I used to try keep my options open. Something better might come along and I'm not being committed if it does. As I get older the if in my previous construct grows bigger and bigger. And regrets, regrets I dread like a bad hair day. I've reduced the number of regets in my heart or head about my early years, but regrets I dread creating new ones. Hugs or no hugs, open options with no regrets? Is that a rude life strategy? I don't intend to be rude.