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but I am just uncomfortable to hang up the phone and find an excuse (since he knows and has asked whether I am busy at this time
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This could be awkward because if you say that you are not busy he can feel free to talk indefinitely, but if you say that you are busy he could get offended or just keep calling until you are "not busy". You could try saying that you have an hour to speak now or whatever amount of time you are willing to spend. Near the end of that time, you say that you have to get going now. Easier said than done. But practice this, insist on ending the call at the time you set beforehand. If he asks what you need to do now, you just have to work up the courage to be firm and keep saying that you have to leave, you have work to do, you have plans, etc., without specifying those plans to him. If you resort to specifying your plans you are essentially giving him veto power over your phone time if he thinks that your plans are not good enough etc. It can be quite challenging to get off of the phone with a parent who does not want to get off. Remember he is your father not your boss! You can do it!
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I have more trouble avoiding topics he almost always brings up
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Dad we spoke about this last week and nothing is new since that time.
If you disagree with him about something,
Dad, I am grateful for your perspective but even so I am sticking with what I said last week
You do not have to go over the same territory call after call. This is a good area to work on being more assertive.
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I do understand that I must be more appreciative of his advice
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I suspect that you already express a lot of gratitude.
What i mean is that if you are not going to follow somene's advice, it takes a bit of the sting out for them when you thank them anyways (and obviously is polite as well).
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I can afford the time talking to him, but I often get bored and want to do something else.
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See above.
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I will start being more clearer and set times for our calls so it is easier to manage.
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This is good!
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I will also be less afraid to ask questions
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What happens when you ask questions?
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Oh, I also forget to mention that I may try asking him to say certain stuff politely in Vietnamese, but he just has trouble explaining in just Vietnamese and uses English terms for his concepts. I have tried multiple times, but he does not like to because he just has trouble explaining things since there is a lack of words to use in Vietnamese.
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What brings you to ask for him to speak in Vietnamese when there is a lack of words in Vietnamese to express what he is trying to get across?