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Originally Posted by vertigo
I get this way, too. I keep it to myself, though, because I fear it wouldn’t be understood. I suspect I’d be seen as a stalker. One strong situation is a friend of my sons who feels to me like a daughter. I have, in fact, thought about telling her that if she’s ever in need of a parent or somehow caught in a bind, she can contact me. She and her brother, both, are like godchildren in my mind.
There have been others, as well, but this one is lasting.
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Yes, this is pretty much what I was talking about. I haven't told anyone either since my ex thought I was having a crush on someone else because I obsessively kept talking about this person all the time.
Personally I think there can never be too many reliable adults in a child's life. When I was a child, I had about two "mother-like" people in my life. Mostly they were mothers of my friends. It felt good to know that someone cared about me when my own mom was very stressed by her mental/physical illnesses.
But yes, I think it's a good idea to tell her that she can always contact you when needed.