I'm looking to start healing from a life of abuse. I just escaped an abusive relationship... and during my time in therapy and by reading, I realized that my parents were abusive, and both my long term relationships.

Now at 27 years old with 3 children to take care of, I want to really concentrate on myself to heal, be the best that I can and try to reduce the effects of the abuse.

Where do I start? I have seen some improvement, just in the fact that I chose to leave my partner and stay away.. but sometimes I feel I don't know who the real me is.

Any books? Tips?

I struggle mostly with anxiety. I get very anxious talking to people, attending and trying new things is extremely uncomfortable for me. That is definitely something I would like to change.

I would just like to find myself as I feel a little lost at times.