Hi there,

my lover and I are going through depression at the same time. So everyone's depression manifests differently, sometimes it can even work out being on the same frequency. This won't be a 'look on the positive side' post I swear, but I will say I am grateful that neither of us have the energy to do much else than work and sleep, he's not trying to drag me on outings lol.

So when you get depression, what do you need?
When he gets depression, what does he need?

worst case scenario y'all are clashing. I've had to depression-proof so much stuff. Like using a rice maker, one button and done. My friends know I can't talk that well or don't feel like it, so wonder if there's a way you and your partner could work something out in way of communication at least.

Most of my depressions don't need therapy, I just have to wait them out. I am also almost completely against anti-depressants and their whole slew of god knows what chemicals they're putting in them things, and how long they've tested the drug and on how many people. Sadness is natural, sometimes depression is telling you something, and you simply need to back out of certain stressors for awhile. I know in today's economy it might not be possible, which is stupid and society sucks, I wish there was a paid mental health leave. I refuse to stop dreaming.

Your situation definitely sounds complicated and hard, I think it's good to talk about how it's stressing you out, it's bad to be alone with these kinds of problems.