@LT I'm glad to hear you're looking at the situation critically - and I understand what you're saying about needing to leave because you're asserting yourself, rather than running away. Two years is a long time to suffer like this, but it sounds like building a relationship with your new T has helped bring some clarity to the situation. I experienced a similar relationship more than ten years ago, and I can still vividly recall how painful it was... so seeing posts here from people struggling with their T's in this way really tugs at my heart. Thanks for not getting defensive with what I said, I was motivated by understanding the confusion and hurt that this causes you rather than judgement.