Gracey,
Okay, yes, our T's can not be our friends even though that may be what we want. However, if it is what we want, it is something that needs to be worked out between the T and the client in the manner and setting/s chosen by both.

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This is why i disagree with T's who allow email. When they don't respond (b/c they feel they shouldn't, or b/c it's crossing boundaries) then they catch hell from clients.

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My T allows email but doesn't respond. He didn't read mine last week and to be honest, I was really hurt. I asked him why he couldn't take 5 minutes out of his day to read something that was so important to me to share with him. What a wonderful thing to happen in session he said, where the client is hurt/disappointed by the T. This is already happening with the client IRL and now there is a here and now situation for the T to help guide the client through his/her thoughts/negative cognitions and so forth.

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The entire point of client-therapist relationship is to ork out the CLIENT'S issues IN therapy. . .not on the phone, not via email. IN THERAPY.

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Again, those issues are to be decided between the client and the T. There is no one steadfast rule. A lot of times in emails and phone calls the T can get information to work out in session that he might not have gotten otherwise.

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Your therapist can't be your savior. Ever. Her job is to teach you to how to work out your problems and get to the point of doing so independently.

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True. However, many client idealize their T's at first and it takes awhile for the client to come to this conclusion and accept this conclusion.

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if you walk away and go to a new therapist, you're just going to have the same problems again with unreachable expectations.

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It is important that the therapist realize when the clients have unreachable expectations. This is a great issue to work on in session! If the client has unreachable expectations with the T, then he/she may also be having the same problems irl that need to be addressed.

Gracey, you may be further along in your therapy sessions than most (congratulations on that).

What Krazibean is feeling is Totally normal and should be brought up in session so it can be worked through. This is a big part of therapy, having various feelings toward your T and then having the courage to go back and discuss them. That is when you will see change. And, Krazibean, I know you will! Keep us posted!