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Old Dec 15, 2017, 06:04 PM
SarahSweden SarahSweden is offline
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Thanks. Yes, we kind of tounched this subject about what I want her to say or do when I tell her about practical problems as unemployment. I said I wanted her to listen but also give me some insights and did deeper into such problems. That is, not just stating how things are but to analyse them a bit and to show she understands.

But as Iīm not a therapist myself I canīt tell her exactly what I mean by support, itīs up to the therapist to know such things and to be able to try different methods.

Last time we ended up in a kind of exercise about words that identify me, not what I mean about "looking deeper into things". By that I got this "it is how it is" feeling as she picked just some random exercise as part of her therapy method instead of going deeper into what I actually told her about my unemployment situation.

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Originally Posted by peaches100 View Post
Hi Sarahsweden,

It might be more productive to let your t know what sort of response you are looking for. Rather than say "It is what it is; nothing much I can do about it" in a despondent tone and hope that your t picks up on your despondency by providing a more helpful answer, could you say something like this:

"Simply reporting my week doesn't feel productive to me. Would you be willing to...? (help me find ways to resolve my unemployment problem / help me accept the situation if it can't be changed / provide the emotional support I need)?