I think there will always be a risk of regretting giving a hug or not giving a hug but when I sum it up I personally see more negatives in initiating or asking for hugs instead of just a handshake or "nothing", just a simple "goodbye" or "hello" if itīs in the beginning of a session.
I donīt see anything wrong with hugging a therapist if both the client and therapist feels itīs a good way to connect, to greet each other or similar. But to me personally I know my regrets would be huge if I'd showed fondness by giving my therapist a hug and then suddenly we donīt get along anymore.
Then a more formal handshake is more appropriate as you can do a handshake even if you donīt get along that well anymore.
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Originally Posted by OldTaylor
Of course. I used to try keep my options open. Something better might come along and I'm not being committed if it does. As I get older the if in my previous construct grows bigger and bigger. And regrets, regrets I dread like a bad hair day. I've reduced the number of regets in my heart or head about my early years, but regrets I dread creating new ones. Hugs or no hugs, open options with no regrets? Is that a rude life strategy? I don't intend to be rude.
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