Thank you. I spent a long time trying to change him but have realised recently that this isn't healthy. He is who he is, and he needs to find someone whose life will merge with his I'm a way that makes them both happy. I really don't think that person is me. Thank you for your perspective. Sometimes I think I am asking too much of life, of a relationship, but others I think h am just asking for what I meed, knowing that not all of it will get met, but most, most of the time. Same for happy. Mostly hall, most of the time. I know it has to be a balance in life.