Is there a way to stop being offensive to a certain group of people?
In the presence of people I see as obese, I catch myself saying things which I prefer to think is completely unlike me: covertly vicious. The first time I can recall, but there may well have been earlier times, was about 10 years ago, when I made two comments in a row, which turned a newly met friend of my good friend into a long-term enemy, and for a reason; I would not have forgiven such a behaviour to anyone either.
Whereas this does not happen very often, I do end up saying things I instantly regret. This happens even if I find the person very amusing and likeable.
How can I stop myself doing that? Not only is it legally classified as harassment, but also ruinous to my relations with some people and their friends. If I were religious, I would be ready to swear to God: I do not want it; I take responsibility, but these are reflexes.
Last edited by DocJohn; Dec 22, 2017 at 06:18 AM.
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