It sounds like you two are just completely incompatible. Don't make the mistake of having kids with the hope that it will change him OR the compatibility between you. You two are very different. Kids will just be a mere distraction for the next 18 years until they move out and away from you and will serve as a band aid to bridge the gap. Then you will be left with the same issues you had before. Leaving is most likely the best solution, and finding someone who meshes far better with your interests and lifestyle. ((((Hugs)))) not an easy decision and probably painful, but in the end, perhaps the best thing you can do for yourself and your husband. You deserve to be happy.