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Originally Posted by Michael W. Harris
I know for a fact that abandonment can traumatized a toddler. So I feel your pain. When I was twelve my Mom had a mental breakdown. My Sister was only about two at that time. Dad was a medical doctor and so when he decided to put Mom in a Mental Health hospital in Atlanta for two to three months, he made the decision to send my Sister to my Aunt's house to live with them. It traumatized my sister horribly. She did not understand. She would scream and scream when we left her.
When Mom came home and we brought my Sister back home, my parents did not do what was necessary to help my sister get over the trauma. All it would have taken was extra love and attention for the next few years to help my Sister know that she was loved and wanted. No one did that!!!! I was already mentally ill at that time and did not know enough to help my Sister. She never recovered. To this day she has anger issues and cannot commit to any relationships. She is a lesbian and she has had many good partners but she just will not bond. Fear from that childhood experience. Fear of the emotional pain. It makes my gut knot up because to help her would have been so simple if I knew back then what I know now.
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You're right. That is a horrible thing to do to a child. I just don't get parents sometimes. What's really bad is when everyone else considers them as good parents and good people and then they do not so good things to or with their children. I'm going through something similar to that on fb with some family members who don't seem to want to believe that I was abused. All my life I grew up being told that my concerns were all in my head and that my traumas were just bad dreams. That's the kind of good, good family members that I have to put up with. Always denial with them.