I understand thebgoing from anger to pity that comes from the understanding of what issues are really causing their behavior to be what it is.

Know in my sutuation I list the possible causes for my ex-H's behaviors. I even strike those out as possibilities & realize something more serious is going on with his mind than just what I have been able to know. But with the pity comes my knowledge & understsnding that there are CONSEQUENCES for everu choice & behavior & no matter what the reason, those consequences are his orobkem to deal with. That is the pjilosophy of APS (adult protective services) when they told me that anyone capable of making decisions whether good or bad is responsible for the consequences of those decisions.

If I wasnt still being harmed by his bad financial decisions it would be REAL EASY to look the other way & never look back though I still feel pity not anger even with the harm he is doing because I KNOW he is mentally incompetent even though they wont declare it legally.