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Originally Posted by golden_eve
ARGH. I don't get it. I had a car accident last night, and now I am obsessed all over again today about hearing from my ex and responding to him with THE BRUTAL TRUTH and with confronting him on ALL his BS and lies. I WANT him to contact me so that I can confront him and call him out on his actions and behavior.
WHY can't I let this go??? I don't have closure.!!! And why is it that a car accident (a hit and run where THEY hit ME) inspired this in me this morning????? Lack of justice? Lack of humanity??? Lack of concern?????
I am rip roaring angry right now. I just want him to know how badly he treated me and how I am walking away for GOOD.
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It sounds to me like what you need to understand more is how no matter how much you try to get this other person to listen to you, his constant reactions are reflecting that he is simply NOT going to listen to you or validate you.
When a person struggles with an alcohol addiction, they exhibit a lot of the same signs that narcissists exhibit. They are literally consumed by the addiction and their entire life revolves around that addiction and in that seeing YOU and caring about YOU is not something that person really thinks about or recognizes.
You can lead a horse to water, but you cannot MAKE it drink.
Obsessed = standing with that horse you led to water and thinking if you keep insisting you can make it drink. Truth is the horse simply will NOT drink until the HORSE decides it's thirsty enough where it WANTS to drink.
Also, sorry about your car accident where someone hit you and did not want to CARE about the damage they caused. It's understandable that would trigger you to feel the same way you feel when your ex boyfriend is basically the same way with you where he fails to see the hurt he causes you to feel.