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Originally Posted by MavriforceK9r
Well, yeah. People should try to be who they feel most comfortable being but, it's not always that simple because we live in a world were people are also quick to judge and I know from experience that when you're real honest about your true self and what you want out of life some people will treat you like you're odd or strange or something and start avoiding you. I was raised to believe in honesty and to always tell the truth but, the older I get the more it seems to me that most people dislike hearing the truth. It makes me wonder just how many people there are out there lying to each other without giving it a second thought. I have an honest heart. That's just me. I can't help it.
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This is a hard one I think, because it simply isn't appropriate for people to be 100% honest about their inner being in all social situations. With close friends and family it is more appropriate to be more open and honest about yourself more often but it just isn't appropriate to always be honest and always tell the truth in social interactions. I don't mean its appropriate to lie. I mean its very often not appropriate for anyone to reveal their whole truth to everyone, and I don't just mean people with dissociative disorders.
And I want to reiterate the importance of being open and authentic with ourselves, because with dissociative disorders that is most often a contributor to the dissociative problem.... we can't accept the full truth of our own experiences because they are too much to bear, so they are dissociated. That inability to face my own truth is what drives the whole dissociation thing for me. If I could face my own experiences and truth then I wouldn't need to dissociate them!
For me my need is to learn to be able to accept my own truths within myself. And I know I don't yet. But I can't even hope to be "real" and open with others if I can't even be "real" with myself yet. Which is why I am so alarmed by that other thread. I didn't know I had to be diagnosed as being real and as far as I know I haven't been so does that mean I am potentially not even real? What hope is there for me if that is the case? I will ask my therapist next time I see her.
