Hello everyone, I definately did not expect 8 pages of responses. I have not been back because frankly much has changed. I come back now to see if I could find some input. Thanks for the replies.

To clarify, it seems like my estimate was off. She does weigh more than I thought....anyhow, it is not grotesque or disgusting, but damnit if it doesn't bug me.

Its curious, I read a similar topic to this on a mostly male site, nearly all of the respondents replied saying looks were important. In my opinion, they are quite important. What do you do if you are attracted to someone but maybe not so much their body? Its biologic to look for fit mates, unfit mates are naturally not as appealing.

For her there was no exercising, very poor diet, low physical activities, etc. This was a lifestyle that would make anyone overweight.

She was aware of her looks, she was clearly not proud (before i mentioned anything) and she was self conscious. I say this all in the past tense because things have changed.

Nearly all food now is organic, most low/no fat. We are exercising a few times a week, together. This is something we are doing as a team and the response has been very positive. I think she has gone down 1-2 sizes from the way her pants fit, which she was very proud of. She also made some goals for herself.

There are other hot girls around, why not take one of them and leave this girl be....? On most days I realize that after you see enough naked women, they all look the same. Inside though, some make you want to hang around.

Clearly, there are other issues at work here, im sure. Maybe I could just talk to her about it. I wish my thoughts would be clear.