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What do you do if you are attracted to someone but maybe not so much their body? Its biologic to look for fit mates, unfit mates are naturally not as appealing.

>> Let's ask you the question...You marry her as she is today. She gets pregnant. Gains more weight. It's even harder for her to lose weight now. She's depressed. Doesn't have the willpower to get up and move. Are you going to turn your back on her and run? Are you so perfect that she should stay with you? Who says she's going to want to see your fat butt and bald head as you age? Or your droopy 'boys' and limp 'friend'? Why is all this 'attraction' but on her shoulders?

For her there was no exercising, very poor diet, low physical activities, etc. This was a lifestyle that would make anyone overweight.

She was aware of her looks, she was clearly not proud (before i mentioned anything) and she was self conscious. I say this all in the past tense because things have changed.

Nearly all food now is organic, most low/no fat. We are exercising a few times a week, together. This is something we are doing as a team and the response has been very positive. I think she has gone down 1-2 sizes from the way her pants fit, which she was very proud of. She also made some goals for herself.

>> Wow! Something positive. You've helped her see that she is worthy of being a beautiful girl inside and out. Just watch out when all those other men out there notice it to. Maybe she'll end up dumping you. ~Just giving you a hard time ~ This positive reenforcement is good for both of you. >>>

There are other hot girls around, why not take one of them and leave this girl be....? On most days I realize that after you see enough naked women, they all look the same. Inside though, some make you want to hang around.

>> You answered your own question here. Naked is naked. What is going to count with this girl is on the inside. When my hubby was almost paralyzed a year and half into our marriage he questioned..is she still going to want me? I didn't care if he was paralyzed. I love him for his mind, body and soul. The body-no matter what shape it was in. So, asked yourself what you really want...Looks that fade with time...Or a heart and soul that will love and support you even when you're old, bald, and fat.>>>

Clearly, there are other issues at work here, im sure. Maybe I could just talk to her about it. I wish my thoughts would be clear.

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>> It sounds like you are thinking about a future with this girl. You really should sit down and talk about it together. Talk about the expectations you are expecting. And visa versa. If you two are able to partner and exercise together now why would this change later on? Through friendship & marriage you have to be best friends, lovers, and most all partners in life.

Best Wishes

Ocean13