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Originally Posted by Sassandclass
Something I found really interesting is that when you start being assertive not everyone will like you for it. Pushy personalities want you to remain a push over - because it gives them what they want. So you will get some kick back for sure. It’s a battle of wills for awhile. But just keep being assertive and you will get to the point where people either exit your life (great! You don’t need those people anyways) or they respect you way more!
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I have definitely experienced the "push back" from the domineering people I've been assertive with. Each time I asserted myself, I'd notice they would immediately resort to more gaslighting techniques, more threats, and shaming.
A lot of people have exited my life when I finally decided to be assertive with them and establish my boundary that I will say "no," to their requests, and I will confront them when they act like jerks to me, to let them know that that is not ok.
But it is difficult. Finding people who like and respect me for who I am has always proved challenging. I'm no longer willing to put up with what I used to put up with from people. I can't "fake it til you make it," with people, so maybe that is my downfall.