Thread: Any older borderlines on here? 40-50 yrs old
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Old Dec 18, 2017, 05:33 AM
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Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche View Post
I'm 45 and was first diagnosed at age 18. I'm "high functioning" but that's only because I decided at age 18 not to have relationships with men because they are too chaotic and emotionally gut wrenching for me. I was able to put my energies into my career instead.
You were able to actually have a career and know what you wanted to do? That is one of the main signs. I could not figure out who I was and changed subjects in college 5 times and never finished. I also had a hard time going to college because of intense emotions. I used men to get my needs met. I married twice with lots of intense swings with men.

I am chill now after 2 years of EMDR and reparenting from a very dedicated therapist but, hey, I guess I will always struggle with certain aspects of the Borderline. I know at 50 I still want to be loved and cared for like a child because I never got that and still never have.

I was considered high functioning also.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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