I am so sorry for your loss. I'm also sorry that people in your life are telling you to get over it. 16 months is hardly any time at all to mend a broken heart. Its okay if you don't have it all together right now. Life would be so much easier if we could just shut grief off when we felt we were done with it. From what I read here you are an incredibly strong person. You should be proud of yourself. Whenever you feel like you are doing this on your own, please log on here and talk. You are not alone.