People here say that the same patterns play out with everyone, but that has not been true with me.

I've learned over the years that my attachment issues play out differently with different people, different therapists. I have rejected therapists who need me/clients (and I can tell right away), but get 'attached' to those who have a blank slate stance where they enact emotional distance. Although both of my parents were emotionally unavailable, this behavior is related to the dynamics surrounding my relationship with my father.

I had several therapists before my attachment manifested with another. When this happened, it was more than unsettling. Imo, you never know how things will happen with a different therapist. For some of us, I think each dyad is characterized by individual psychodynamics.