I would have been fine with staying together because I agree with Skeezyks that people find things that they have different interests in and do them and can still be together. Yes he is smothering me and it is actually pushing me away. He complains that we have nothing to talk about and I pointed out to him that how are we supposed to have something to talk about if we are doing everything together? I got because we would talk about what we do together.......I cannot imagine having a life where I am having a day and then rehashing the day together later, snore. I need more than that.....I want to live not just subsist.
In response to healingme4me......yes that is the biggest hurt right now. Every time I try to do something by myself he wants to join and if I decide to say no I get the third degree about how I am trying to push him away. I explain that I just need some time to myself and he says, "well I don't have anytime to myself" then if I tell him to go do something he says "there is nothing I want to do but spend time with you."
I have tried to explain that I fell in love with a person that was his own person and I don't want a twin, but he swears that is not what is going on, however his having the exact same interests as me is not the person I used to know. I feel like I am being controlled.