I agree - I don’t believe that anyone fits in any niche save their own. And that you fit yourself in your space as broadly as possible.

Yah know, I ran across photos of Neil Young with Darryl Hannah -they are, apparently, lovers. Neil is 128-years-old and Hannah 56-years-old or so. I was taken by her selection of dresses - all looked so very comfortable. My long-ago friend segued into the “Annie Hall” look that bloomed in the late ‘70’s. You can make your own style. Be as mannish as you care to be, as femme as you want. Be both. Or something different, entirely.

I know many people of my age that regret that they weren’t more sexually adventurous in their youth through these older decades. They are bitter. They feel regrets. You don’t want to end up like that, surely?

You’ll find your place but be prepared for a host of places in your life. Don’t get stuck.

By Isis, if I could do it again? Much less academia and a lot more adventure. Much more travel. But always cogently informed sexually.

Good luck in life.