Hi,
I have been confused about this for a while and only currently realised that I have less and less control over my habits.
It started about 2 years ago when i asked my t if I can email her. I still remember how difficult it was to compose the first message. Two years later and I email her on daily basis. It almost feels like the emails are seperate to therapy as there are many current topics to discuss when we actually meet that the content of the emails gets left behind. She doesnt reply which we established at the very beginning. I asked several times if its ok that I write and asked her to tell me if this needs to stop. Up until a very recent point she always assured me that its fine and that she reads all of it.
Recently something has changed and when i asked again she didn't give me a clear answer. Only when she was a bit reserved about the idea of emailing did I realise how much I rely on it.
I do wonder how do those emails influence a t? Anyone has similar experience?