I was hoping for him to care that we were. We have become so comfortable in our lives together that we were on autopilot. He wasn't even trying anymore. It had been 3 years since I received a card or a gift that I had not bought for myself. That was one of the first things we talked about ......and his response was "well tell me what you want and what you like and I will get it for you." I was in shock.......17 years together and I was supposed to tell him what I want and what to get? At that point I might as well buy my own gifts. I am not a hard person to figure out, I do not care for things that are typical (flowers, candy) I like thoughtful, creative (if you see something that makes you think of me then that is the gift to buy). That is what I was hoping for and am still hoping for but if I can't seem to get him to understand this simple thing how am I supposed to get him to understand what is happening to us? I'm at a loss.