I myself hang on the imperfections of others. The irritation would be strong and at times I would get so wound up about it. People close to me would tell me I am taking things far too seriously. I do, I admit. It matters to me because it ought to matter to everyone. CBT has helped a great deal but it still occurs.

For instance, someone close to me just can't be bothered to line up their cutlery on their plate to signal they are finished eating (isn't this a universal rule of etiquette?) and it really winds me up. I spend the whole evening thinking about it and yes, it gives me a bad impression about their character. If they are so lazy and uncouth as to not be bothered to do it, what else can't they be bothered to do? Can I rely on this person? It eats away at me.